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Coping with Holiday Grief

By Jeffrey Willey Macaroni KID Winston-Salem Publisher December 21, 2023

Losing a loved one can make the holiday season particularly challenging, as it is often a time associated with joy and togetherness. Coping with grief during this time may require special considerations. Here are some specific things someone can do during the holiday season if they are struggling with the loss of a loved one:

  1. Acknowledge and Express Feelings:
    • Allow yourself to feel the emotions associated with the loss. It's okay to grieve, and it's important to acknowledge your feelings.
  2. Create New Traditions:
    • Consider starting new traditions or modifying existing ones. This can help shift the focus and make the holidays feel less overwhelming.
  3. Include Their Memory:
    • Find ways to include the memory of your loved one in your celebrations. This could involve sharing stories, looking at photos, or creating a memorial in their honor.
  4. Seek Support:
    • Reach out to friends, family, or support groups. Sharing your feelings with others who understand or seeking professional help can provide comfort and assistance.
  5. Plan Quiet Time for Reflection:
    • Allocate some time for quiet reflection. This might involve visiting a special place, lighting a candle, or engaging in activities that promote mindfulness.
  6. Volunteer or Give Back:
    • Channel your grief into something positive by volunteering or helping others. Giving back can bring a sense of purpose and connection.
  7. Set Realistic Expectations:
    • Understand that the holidays may not be the same as they were before the loss. It's okay to set realistic expectations for yourself and not put too much pressure on creating a perfect holiday experience.
  8. Take Care of Yourself:
    • Ensure you are taking care of your physical and emotional well-being. Get enough rest, eat well, and engage in activities that bring you comfort.
  9. Create a Memorial:
    • Consider creating a memorial space in your home or participating in memorial events to honor and remember your loved one.
  10. Write a Letter:
    • Write a letter to your loved one expressing your thoughts and feelings. This can be a therapeutic way to connect with them and release emotions.
  11. Plan Ahead:
    • If certain aspects of the holiday season are particularly challenging, plan ahead and decide how you want to approach those situations. Having a plan can help reduce anxiety.
  12. Be Kind to Yourself:
    • Give yourself permission to grieve, and be kind to yourself. Understand that healing takes time, and it's okay to prioritize your well-being.

Remember, everyone grieves differently, and there is no right or wrong way to navigate the holiday season after a loss. It's essential to be patient with yourself and seek the support you need.